It’s almost 2018 YAY!!  New Year, New us? Right? Ha!! Yea right, as usual, it’s the time of year that we create unrealistic goals to achieve to make the next year great than the last. How many times have we set the same ” lose weight,” ” be a better mother” goals?!  Only to find them lost in the shuffle of life! Not only do we fail to make these goals a reality, we find ourselves losing the ability to keep up with the flow of life. So by the time the end of the year comes, we are burned out, overwhelmed, and ready to throw in the towel! ( The hard hitting truth of trying to survive the current economic,  social-political climate has probably also affected our abilities to make our goal-setting a reality)

With all that in mind my #1 goal for 2018 is daily intentional Self-Care ( Soul Care, Spirit Care, Synergy-Care) haha! You’ve probably read so many lifestyle and self-improvement articles preaching that Self-Care is just as important as taking care of your loved ones and having a thriving source of livelihood. You’ve considered it, read more articles, and you came to the conclusion that you have to take care of yourself.

Just like anything you want to achieve in life–be it in preparing for a competition, planning out your career path or starting up your small business, setting your Self-Care goal is the first step to success. If every creative solo-preneur treated Self-Care as an integral part of their business plan, then I could just imagine how many more startups would have prospered (and frankly, I’d be out of business, LOL!).

Here is my plan for how I will set some sustainable Self Care Goals

Step 1: Reflect On & Identify My Ideal Self Care Goal

So first, I  ask myself about a general aspect of your life that I want to improve.  Which becomes my main goal. Ask yourself, what can guide you in figuring this out is by thinking about that particular part of self-care that you’ve actually thought about fixing before but you’ve always procrastinated. Contemplate on your recent experiences about this aspect and try to determine why you weren’t successful in it.

For example, I noticed that you’re actually working well past midnight for the past few weeks or so. But then, even I wanted to have the recommended hours of sleep, I find excuses for continuing this bad habit day in and day out. No matter how “legitimate” those excuses are, it’s imperative to understand that it’s bad for you (most especially your productivity) in the long run! So in this case, ican say that the main goal is getting sufficient sleep.

It’s time to just eat the frog and acknowledge your inner voice that’s been nagging you all along.

Step 2: Indicate a Related Short-Term Goal

Now that I have the main goal, I will create a short-term goal that’s connected to the ideal that you’re trying to achieve following the S.M.A.R.T. approach.

S.M.A.R.T. stands for:

      • Specific

– Be highly precise about your mini-objective so that improvement is easily doable. If your short-term goal is vague, you wouldn’t know what particular steps you have to take so you’ll probably end up delaying your improvement further – and there’s a likelihood that if it’s too general, then it’s probably a different aspect of self-care that you’d need another plan for.

      • Measurable

– Quantify how you would determine or at least get an idea of how you’re progressing throughout. This is helpful in maintaining your motivation to follow-through with your goals in the long run and not end up procrastinating once again.

      • Achievable & Realistic

– Keeping your objectives feasible and practical is crucial in ensuring that the steps you’ll take would be sustainable all throughout. It’s easy to fall into the trap of doing a full-on 180 lifestyle change but often times, those kinds of dramatic changes get easily flipped back to your original bad habits just because they aren’t compatible to your current situation.

      • within a Timeframe

– Determining a short-term period for your objectives allows you to test out if your plan will actually work out for you. Think of the suitable amount of time that will allow you to monitor if you’re doing better or not

In other words, this bite-sized goal is the way in which you plan to achieve the Self-Care ideal you’ve had in the first step.

To carry on with my first example, my smaller objective to achieve getting sufficient & timely rest is by having my lights out by 10:30 pm every night for a full month. Your first few attempts will most likely be a struggle (because your body needs time to adjust), but since I’ve followed the S.M.A.R.T Approach, you’ll notice that if you follow it over time, you’ll hit your mark right on the spot!

Step 3: Strategize & Get Started!

I then craft a plan to meet your short-term goal and put them into action! In this stage, you have to be very detailed as to what you’ll do for it to be effective. You must also think of the barriers that may come your way and nip them in the bud by strategizing how you’ll overcome them.

So if I  want to arrive in dreamland by 10:30 pm every night for a month, my plan of action must revolve around the logistics of getting to business  – and avoid detours along the way. Here’s an example of action steps for this particular goal:

        1. Make sure your kids start their sleeping routine by 9 and be tucked in bed by 9:30
        2. Once the kids are in bed, start your own night-time rituals
        3. Put gadgets on silent mode and place them out of reach from your bed
        4. Drink warm milk or your favorite sleep-inducing tea
        5. Read a chapter of a book (make sure it’s the non-digital version)
        6. Lights off by 10:30!

 Bonus Step: Establish Accountability with a Partner or a Support Group

Once My plan is set in place and in full swing, I will get an additional boost of success in achieving your goal by finding an accountability partner or by joining a support group. There is strength in numbers – and Self-Care doesn’t mean that you have to do it all alone. Having other people to check on you constantly will give you the extra push to commit to your goal especially when things get rough.

I  choose to post in my accountability group onn Facebook Synergize, Focus & Thrive! ., so I can find other like-minded people to hold me accountable to my goals!


What’s your self-care goal for 2018? I’d love to learn more about it!! If you need help getting started in this process I’ve created my first course!! A self-care goal setting course!! This 45 minute course will teach you how to make a realistic self- care goal for the new year!

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